Reflections on life, work and change



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A meaningless life—on purpose

06.02.12 Posted in Being, Mind, Reflections by

My life has less meaning than it did several years ago—but it feels much more purposeful.

I’m reflecting on the differences between meaning and purpose. We all create meaning through the stories that we tell ourselves. I’m doing this right now. The word “meaning” has roots in an older word related to mind. So the meaning of life only exists in our minds.

Purpose isn’t something that we think. It’s something that we feel into.

My purpose can’t be captured in a single story—it’s whatever brings me most alive. I’m “on purpose” when I’m feeling fulfilled. I express my purpose through how I am being, and how this shapes my actions and relationships. Read More…


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Sticking to life

31.01.12 Posted in Being, Reflections by

Sometimes the universe just wants us to throw a stick.

A few weeks ago I was sitting on a Gisborne beach. It was a calm summer evening. The sea breeze had ceased exhaling. Sunlight skimmed the surf. My toes explored the lingering warmth in the sand. I had just farewelled some friends so I was feeling slightly lonely.

Then a shaggy little fellow with flapping jowls and mischief in his eyes decided to break the peace.

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Releasing the grip of anger

05.12.11 Posted in Being, Reflections by

Last week I was sitting in a kebab shop, waiting for my falafel when an angry man appeared. He started screaming at the Iraqi owners of the shop. I hate you, he yelled. You’re not from here, he shouted. He tried to provoke a fight. The old man behind the counter kept his cool. His son clenched his fists. His wife arrived and gently asked the angry man to leave. The rest of us were unsure what to do. Luckily the angry man left. The cook passed me my falafel. I wanted to say sorry. I said some people have so much anger inside them. The man behind the counter said yes, too much anger.

This was one flash of anger on a quiet street in Wellington. There’s much more brewing beneath the surface in New Zealand. Read More…


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Giving a flock attention

17.11.11 Posted in Mind, Reflections by

I’ve been very attentive with my attention recently. I’m becoming more aware of what I’m creating with the energy that’s available to me. I’ve also been pondering the relationship between attention, social change and my role in this process.

And… I’ve been bird watching.

Last week I went to a great event on Emergence. To get a taste of what emergence means, we watched this video that’s gone viral on social media recently of swallows swarming: Read More…


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The simple art of sitting in a tree

23.10.11 Posted in Being, Reflections by

Last evening I wandered up my local hill in the still golden light of a windless night. Evenings like this need to be savoured in the capital of breezes. I have a favourite spot to sit by an abandoned gun emplacement from a previous era. Wild plants patiently burrow through the concrete. There’s a grassy patch to sit in the retreating sunbeams. I enjoy being immersed in the landscape here. In the distance, the Kaikoura mountains peek over the water, framed by Wellington’s hills rippling into the sea.

I didn’t arrive at my usual spot last night. Another couple had already settled there and I didn’t want to disturb them. Standing nearby, slightly disappointed that my cherished spot was taken, I wondered where to wander. Then I noticed a nobbly pine tree bathed in light on the other side of the hill. I liked the look of its gangly limbs. Curious, I headed in that direction.  Read More…


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Twitter Tips: Panning for gold in the social media stream

18.10.11 Posted in Reflections by

Can people grow a wiser, fairer and more vibrant world in 140 characters or less? My experience of Twitter is a resounding yes. It’s a technology for shaping attention. But it’s easy to get lost in the rivers of tweets. We need to know how to sift through the chatter to find the bits of gold.

I’m often asked by friends and workmates why I use Twitter and how to use it for good effect. I usually refer them to other resources. But we all use technologies in different ways. So here’s how I use this tool (with lots of tips for newbies). Read More…


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Befriending our genius

02.10.11 Posted in Mind, Reflections by

I’ve noticed this quote popping up in many networks recently: “Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” It’s attributed to Einstein. There’s a good chance that he never really said this though. Out of curiosity I did some digging on the web to find out when/where he said these words. I couldn’t find a single reference. Some people even suggest that this quote comes from a Christian self-help book (although I can’t find any proof of that either).

Have these words just been attributed to Einstein to give them greater power? This might be another story like the fake Martin Luther King quote that rapidly spread though social networks after Bin Laden’s execution.

Does it really matter who gave us the analogy of the fish though? This quote has power in itself. Read More…


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Reviving men for social & environmental change

09.09.11 Posted in Change, Reflections by

Climate change, male depression, global poverty, suicide and violence. We don’t normally connect these issues. But there’s a common thread that runs among them. Men are in a state of turmoil. And many of us are taking this out on ourselves, other men, women, children and our environment.    

I’m putting men in the spotlight for a couple of reasons. Firstly, men are often held responsible for most of the harm being done in the world (e.g. Naomi Klein links the recklessness of men with oil spills and climate change). Secondly, there’s a risk that blaming men for these harms is just going to make matters worse. Read More…


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Being in our element

13.08.11 Posted in Being, Reflections, Yoga by

I’m in my element. 

I’ve been feeling this more and more recently. It feels extraordinary, but it need not be out of the ordinary. Being in our element is core to who we are.

This is a reflection on the challenges and joys of finding/expressing our gifts in the world.

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Leading on the edges from our centres

15.06.11 Posted in Change, Reflections by

Photo by @lorettarae

Serendipity. Thriving. Possibilities. Stories.

These are words that I kept hearing at Gathering11: a meeting of change-makers who are building better futures.

I’ve left this event with a renewed sense of purpose. I’m stirred but not shaken. I’m feeling uplifted. I’ve been reminded of how supportive it is to connect with like-wired people. The gathering was full of people who lead on the edges of society from the centre of who we are.

Lots will emerge from this meeting. I’ll share some personal reflections soon on what’s germinating for me. In the meantime, these are some words and messages that got my attention: Read More…


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Renewing education

18.05.11 Posted in Change, Mind, Reflections by

Are our education institutions serving us well? Are they enriching our lives and helping us to resolve the great social and environmental challenges of the 21st Century?

Like many people, my view is that most of our education institutions need to be renewed to enable meaningful learning. We may even need to re-imagine what we think of as an education institution. The secondary and tertiary education sectors in particular need a fresh injection of life.

Rather than adding more theory to the academic literature, these are some reflections from my own education experiences.

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Creating a Solarconomy

11.05.11 Posted in Change, Reflections by

Imagine a society that keeps renewing itself and thrives with vibrant energy. Imagine a resilient economy that enhances life without depleting it. Imagine institutions that empower people to reach our full potential. The world we’re creating is shaped by how we see, so lately I’ve been doing some re-imagining.

It’s become clearer to me how important it is to bring together two great challenges of our time:

  • the shift towards renewable forms of energy and
  • the full development of human potential.

We can’t have one without the other. They need to go hand in hand. Read More…


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Flirting with Renewability

01.05.11 Posted in Change, Reflections by

Last year I fell out of love with sustainability. Our twelve year relationship came to an end. Breaking up was easy. Staying apart hasn’t been so breezy because I keep seeing sustainability around. It’s not that I dislike this word. Our separation was civil. I’m still very fond of sustainability and the influence that it’s having.

But now I’ve moved on. There’s a new word in my life. It’s becoming an open affair.

I’m sure you’ve seen this word around. I’ve mentioned it before. It’s renewability. Read More…


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Sustainability & the “other S word”

07.04.11 Posted in Being, Change, Mind, Reflections by

“How can we achieve sustainability without exploring the other s word: spirituality?”.

Someone pitched this question to me seven years ago at the launch of a Parliamentary report. Like a curveball, I hadn’t seen it coming. It got my attention because I couldn’t really answer it. I didn’t grow up with any language around spirituality and I’m part of a secular society that often confuses religion with spirituality (and tends to view both with suspicion).

I always welcome curly questions. They highlight gaps in my understanding and invite me to explore. In this case I had to do some deep digging: what does spirituality mean to me? Why are people often apprehensive about using this word? How does this relate to sustainability?

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